May 15, 2013

  • When Temperaments Collide

    My husband and I make an interesting team. I am a person of ACTION! I see a need, and I want to respond. I see something broken, and I want to fix it... NOW! I remember once, when my sisters and I were kids home “babysitting ourselves,” a log rolled out of the fireplace and set the carpet on fire. While my sisters dithered about in a panic, I dumped out all my Tinker Toys, filled the bucket with water and put out the fire. There is a time for jumping in quick and doing something. That’s my gift.  I’m a jumper inner!

    My husband, on the other hand, is the analytical type. He likes to examine the problem from every angle. He wants to gather information about the problem and think about it for a while -- a good, LONG while. I cannot begin to tell you the "intense fellowship" this causes from time to time in our marriage! But, I think we learn from each other. I am thankful for the times he holds me back from rushing in “where angels fear to tread,” when I really don’t have a plan so much as I have a heart to do something. On the other hand, I hope that I prod him a bit when he gets too analytical and poky about making a decision, even though I know he finds me irritating.

    Isn’t it true that when we are faced with a problem, we need SO MUCH wisdom to know HOW to respond, WHEN to respond and what resources to use? I have learned that my compassion must be tempered with wisdom, and that my soft heart can be an easy target for a con. I need wisdom to know the right way to help, and discernment to know a legitimate need from a scam.

    My husband has learned that if he spends too long analyzing a problem, he may miss an opportunity to do a good thing.

    (James 1:5 AMP)  If any of you is deficient in wisdom, let him ask of the giving God [Who gives] to everyone liberally and ungrudgingly, without reproaching or faultfinding, and it will be given him.

    (James 1:5 MSG)  If you don't know what you're doing, pray to the Father. He loves to help. You'll get his help, and won't be condescended to when you ask for it.

    Aren’t you glad that God sees the whole picture and knows exactly what is needed? Aren’t you glad that His wisdom is available simply by asking?

Comments (18)

  • I certainly am in need of His wisdom every day! All personalities need it, both the jumpers and the analytical. Not only that, we need all kinds to complete the pictures!

  • Hi Pastor, I know what you man. My wife and I have opposite personalities. lol It does produce times of intense friendship.

    I am reading trough Proverbs again--it has plenty to say about making decisions. I used to read on chapter a day during my busniss career.
    My wife have been married a few years and we are still adjusting. One day she will get it right. lol
    frank

  • I'm trying to learn to mind my own business but still to be compassionate.

  • I'm a gullible jumper too, I need to ask for help more often, but aren't we suppose to believe and trust in people?

  • did you write this for me!

  • My marriage is a combination of strengths and weaknesses covered and complimented between the two of us. It is all good!!

  • You are what I call a "Good Thing Doer" ! What a great gift you have!   I love to see how husbands and wives make a good team and help one another with weak points.  Thanks for sharing!

  • @mlbncsga -  I know what you mean! I do try to think the best of people, but it is also important to listen to the Holy Spirit. Sometimes He wants to warn us, but we'll miss it if we jump in without asking Him what He thinks. 

  • @spazmom40 -  Hey! Does the shoe fit?

  • I'm like your husband and my fiance is like you, lol.

  • I'm a 'jumper in' too--but there are times I must step back and reflect/analyze first.  Good post.

  • well, i definitely dont know what  im doing but learning as i go along. unfortunately no matter how much i learn, the ball is in his court. sadly watching it. 

  • With Spazzz - I always ask if the sock fits! No telling about shoes! And OF COURSE the socks MATCH!

  • Aren’t you glad that His wisdom is available simply by asking?

    If it weren't for that statement right there I don't know how I would face each day. I have to ask him daily. As I know we all do. Loved this post .

    RYC: Yes I know Mae I shouldn't act as though we are the only ones who struggle. I can't imagine how you all make it except for the love of God. He already knows our troubles so why do I worry?

    Hugs...Linda +

  • G-d can give us wisdom in several ways.

    1. He can send the message via anyone.
    2. He can remind us of a past experience.
    3. He can have the right people around us.
    4. The answer can be in the Bible.
    5. Someone on xanga could relate a similar answer......

  • Thank you for sharing
    In Christs Love
    Michelle~

  • I look like your husband : reflection before action!! ...but some say we reflect in acting .Then who is right ?
    Love

    Michel

  • "intense fellowship"....I love that phrase.

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